Honoring Choices® Idaho is grateful for the shared stories of participants and facilitators.
My wife and I have been married for 26 years. During our facilitated conversation we learned important things about one another—things we’ve never discussed. The conversation is an incredible gift because now we can truly honor each other’s priorities. Have the conversation.
As a 52 year old Type 1 Juvenile Diabetic, I always knew that having advanced care directives in place was a reality I needed to deal with, not just for my own wishes to be fulfilled, but also out of love and concern for my wife and other important people in my life. I suppose the reason I never took care of it is the same reason most people avoid or put it off doing so meant facing my own mortality, and having to share those feelings and fears with a complete stranger, or even worse, in front of my loving wife. After having a stent placed in my heart last November, reality came calling. I knew I could no longer avoid my issues with mortality because avoiding those issues would affect not just me but also my loved ones. Even though I was still trying to avoid this reality, the St. Luke’s Cardiac Rehab, in a shameless maneuver, had a Social Worker named Audrey address our group and encourage us to complete our advanced directives. When my wife and I showed up for our advanced directives planning appointment, I actually had a feeling of relief even before the meeting began. When Audrey stepped out of her office to greet us, she had a big smile on her face which put my wife and me both at ease. Throughout our meeting, Audrey was friendly and just matter of fact with her questions and how she explained what they meant in plain English. I am so incredibly grateful to her and all of the great, caring staff at St. Luke’s hospital.
Facilitator: Anna’s Story:
When it comes to advanced care planning, I have gone from “checking the box” and having the patient independently complete the paperwork to really understanding the importance of having these decisions made and documented. In the room where the conversations about quality of life and what people really feel/know about their experiences with death are held, there is an emotional “thing” that takes place. The patients and health care agents have sort of an “a-ha” moment as they talk with me and as we really explore what that means to them. The conversation and the completion of the document seems to give them a sense of peace. As a facilitator you learn to use the tools to help the patient explore their values, wishes and beliefs. After a while the conversations just flow. Honoring Choices Idaho has empowered me to not be afraid of the conversation, but to embrace it!
ACP Facilitator: Keyana’s Story:
I initially met in George and Linda (not real names) in their home with their youngest son to facilitate an ACP conversation. George, Linda, and their son all completed documents at that time and discussed plans for sharing their decisions with the rest of their family. When following up with them two weeks later, they said that the family conversation had gone well. While they were surprised that two of their children had some conflict with the wishes that they shared, as a family, they talked it through and in the end, their children expressed how glad they were that they had the conversation. Additionally, all 5 of their other children and their spouses all decided to complete their own advance directives as well. In total, 13 people completed advance directives as a result of 1 conversation.